Tolerate..

It has been a busy day & just want to share a little something that my friend had said.

He told me about a story of a granddaughter & her granddad. It goes like this:

Once, there was a granddaughter (let's name her Mel, so that i need not type the word 'granddaughter' that many times.. ;p) who loved fell in love with a man at 1st sight. After Mel's marriage, she gradually realized that she's finding more & more faults in her husband, thus they ended up always in a quarrel. Everytime, she would complain to her granddad about her husband. Her granddad had always just listen to her stories without any response. Until 1 fine day, Mel went to her grandad'a place to complain again. This time round, granddad handed Mel a piece of white paper & a pen. "Mel, do put down a dot for every fault that you think your husband has..". So, Mel made a dot for every thing that she's not satisfied at.. At last, Mel had at least thousands of dots on the piece of paper. "Ok, that should be it, you see, the dots covered practically the whole paper..!" Then, her granddad said to her, "well, there seemed to be quite a lot of dots that made both of you unhappy.." "but, why didn't you realize that although there might be a thousand dots on this paper, there are still lots of spaces left white..!"

Have you got what he meant?

When two people are living with each other, surely every bits of theirselves will show for the partner to see; however, if all that you saw is faults & weaknesses, surely there will be hard times ahead. Besides the faults, surely everyone has their own strong points, so why not focus on these and not dwell on the weaknesses. This way, there will be tolerance & understanding towards each other. I think this doesn't only apply to marriage but to every relationships: parents-children, friends, students-teachers and even enemies! This way, you'll also be more contented & feel happy for yourself.. so why not?